Qualities to teach your child: Self-Love
Assist your children to develop these qualities and they’ll forever be grateful, even if they don’t realise. These qualities will forever stay with them and impact their lives in ways greater than any knowledge they might acquire at school or university.
There are two certainties in life: That it started (birth) and that it will end (death).
You can give yourself one more certainty: that you are Loved. But for that, you must be the giver and the receiver of Love. You must be the Lover and the Loved-One.
Other people might Love you, but that is not your choice. That is not something you should wish or expect. That is not something that you can force on others. That is not something that you can demand from others.
You Loving yourself is the only love you can and should demand.
Surely you Love your child, but he or she loving himself or herself is more valuable than all the love you can provide. For what would your love mean to your child does not Love himself or herself? Besides, eventually you will not be here anymore — who will Love your child then?
It is only when you truly Love yourself that you can Love others. For how do you know if your Love for others is real if you do not give it to yourself in the first place?
HOW can you help your child to have Self-Love?
- Teach your child to Love his or her own body by:
– Being grateful and showing appreciation for the fact that it is healthy and functional.
– Appreciating how it looks like. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Teach him or her not to compare and show how the media (cartoons, magazines, toys, adverts, etc.) portray in unrealistic ways the male and female image.
– Caring for the body by eating healthy. As a parent, make sure the diet is balanced and explain that importance of it. Avoid excessive sugar.
- Self-Forgiveness is an act of Self-Love.
- Teach your child how to deal with bullying:
– First step is to have self acceptance.
– Tell your child not to place his or her self-worth in the hands of what others say or think.
– Tell your child why other children bully: because they are insecure and feel inferior. As such they feel the need to ‘bring others down’ to their lack of self-love and integrity. Tell your child that the bully looks for “approval” and “respect” from others by trying to “diminish” those that they feel inferior to.
– Teach your child to stand up to the abuse by exposing it for what it is. Tell your child to not be afraid to speak to you or a teacher.
– Teach your child that he or she who bullies is the one that requires help the most. Those that bully are more likely to have problems at home with family members, or have financial difficulties. More often than not, they have been victims of abuse and that is why they participate in the same abusive behaviour. Informing an adult is not only necessary, it is also a duty.
- Teach your child to make choices that do not bring undesired consequences. Do that by explaining the consequences. You know a few because you have experienced them yourself…
- Tell and show your child how you Love-Yourself: What you learned, what you changed in your relationship with yourself that lead to an increase of Self-Love.
Why should your child have Self-Love?
Self-Love is one of the most effective ways to boost confidence and self-esteem. Without Self-Love we are sure to be on the path of self-destruction.
From the moment you are born till the moment you die you are always here with yourself. How you feel about yourself – love, hatred, and everything in between – is your decision to make and to live. Why would anyone choose anything but Self-Love?
What other qualities are important?
I would like to invite you to share what other quality you see are important, how we can help our children develop them and why they are important.